When a woman decides to move from dating to exclusivity, the game shifts. It’s no longer about seeing if someone checks your boxes. It’s about determining whether what you’ve learned so far makes sense for you to move forward and shut off other romantic possibilities. That can be a high-stakes decision, and it deserves thoughtful […]
Sometimes the hardest conversations in a growing relationship aren’t about what is happening, but about what someone is afraid might happen—especially when a couple is preparing to advance into a more serious or “permanent” stage, like engagement or marriage. I once supported a couple who was preparing to move toward engagement. Things were good—steady, affectionate,
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Some relationship challenges do not begin at the moment in which they occur. They begin in childhood and are often triggered by relationships that echo patterns from it. I meet so many women who feel frustrated by their own reactions, behaviors, and relationships as they work to disrupt their patterns. Understanding this link between past
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Every year, around this time the air turns crisp and the holiday lights go up, I find myself preparing for a particular kind of joy. The kind that shows up in the form of a text message that simply reads, “Guess what?” Or that posts a freshly manicured hand with a recently received diamond ring.
Before you assess anyone else, get grounded in your own desires, values, and boundaries. What do you truly want out of a relationship? Not what sounds cute on social media. Not what others have told you to want. What do you want to feel, experience, and build with someone? Ask yourself: What do I value
A number of women join my Clubhouse stage each week to discuss relationship topics they are currently curious about or facing real-time. The conversation usually starts like: I just want to know if I am wrong or if I am making up a story or I need your help. Then, the “I need clarification”