Most married couples don’t argue about whether sex matters—they usually argue about frequency and what sex is supposed to feel like. One partner wants intensity. One wants consistency. One craves fireworks; the other craves connection. In reality, a thriving sexual life in marriage depends on two forms of sex: passionate sex and maintenance sex. Both […]
Sometimes the hardest conversations in a growing relationship aren’t about what is happening, but about what someone is afraid might happen—especially when a couple is preparing to advance into a more serious or “permanent” stage, like engagement or marriage. I once supported a couple who was preparing to move toward engagement. Things were good—steady, affectionate,
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Once a relationship progresses to engagement, I begin guiding couples through premarital education, preparation, and planning. This stage is often the most uncomfortable and the most necessary. The romantic love that brought the couple this far doesn’t disappear, but it begins to share space with other, more complex aspects of partnership. Decision-making, finances, routines, family
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