The digital age revolutionized our access to knowledge, unknown people, and convenience. But it came with a hidden cost: community. If modern dating feels frustrating, disjointed, or exhausting, you’re not imagining it—and you’re not alone. What we’re experiencing isn’t just a series of bad dates or ghosted texts. It’s a cultural disruption. One that has […]
“I want to be loved, but not hurt.” Sound familiar? For many Black women, vulnerability feels like a risk they can’t afford to take. Between broken trust, performative love, and past disappointments, it can feel safer to keep your guard up. This guardedness isn’t random—it’s adaptive. Black women have historically navigated systems that demand strength,
If you’ve wondered whether your boldness, brilliance, or beauty is “too much” for dating as a Black woman, let me assure you: it’s not. But what is too much? Shrinking or second-guessing yourself, or pretending to be less than you are, to make someone else more comfortable. THE HIDDEN MESSAGE IN “TOO INDEPENDENT” Many Black
Have you ever found yourself looking back at a connection, wondering, How did I let this go on for so long? You wanted something meaningful—deep conversations, consistent interactions, a connection that felt real. And yet, despite those things happening, the situation ended with you realizing how low-priority you were in his orbit. There was no
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When we enter relationships, we often bring our desires, hopes, and emotional patterns with us. But what happens when we ignore our own needs in favor of staying connected to someone who isn’t offering what we want? This is where emotional boundaries become critical—especially for women who tend to prematurely invest, before the foundation is
Special 09: What Is Partner Buffering? Remember from Carlissa from our first suite of episodes? She’s back to give us an update and talk to us about her love life and motherhood since she first met with me. Today’s episode is an insightful and honest conversation about “eldest daughter syndrome,” co-parenting with an
Episode 20: Their New Marriage After eighteen months of relationship coaching and marriage prep, Shaunice marries the love of her life and shares her story alongside her husband with me. In today’s episode, Shaunice and I have a woman-to-woman sit down to discuss her dating and relationship journey, including learning and applying vulnerability
Episode 18: Her Relationship Gems After a year of womanhood and dating coaching, Timka shares her journey, lessons learned, and her personal relationship gems with us. In today’s episode, Timka and I have a lady’s conversation about the power of transformation, not just in her dating life, but also in her own identity
Episode 17: Her Dating Dry Spell Sometimes, it feels good to chat about dates, interactions, and feelings with someone else as you make a final decision about the current guy, right? In today’s episode, Kaity and I unpack lessons learned and new truths from Dates 7-10 on her 100 Dates in Houston
Episode 16: My Black Marriage Research Among Black men, how have their educational achievement gaps, economic disparities, and marriage occurrences been uniquely experienced, endured, and impacted Black women and children in the literature? In today’s episode, I’ll introduce you to my academic research for you to better understand my interests, expertise, and approach.